How to let things go?

How to let go

“Letting go” becomes very difficult for all of us because of our attachment to things and people. I thought over and over about this topic, “How to let go”. That led to another question, “What to let go of”?

Concentrate on your mind and breath in solitude

What to let go of?

All of us want to lead a happy, contended and peaceful life. What are the hindering factors for achieving happiness and peace? The burdens we carry on our shoulders are the hindrances to a happy and peaceful life. By burdens I mean the mental burdens we accumulate over long periods of time. These burdens are jealousy, hatred, revenge and other negative emotions.

Jealousy:

All of us have experienced this feeling some time or the other. Basically if you dig deep down into the depths of this feeling, we can see that jealousy originates from the fear of self-inadequacies. We feel that someone else is better than us or somebody else has better accomplishments than us. But, is it true? We are not inferior to anybody. On such occasions we have to pamper our mind and tell it that we are good at many things and we need not feel jealous or inferior to others.

Hatred:

Hatred actually starts from small differences of opinion. When there are two individuals it is natural to have differences of opinion and conflicts. But if we don’t take conscious effort to pacify, reunite and strengthen the relationships, these negative emotions follow. Knowingly or unknowingly we tend to brood over those little differences of opinion and try to emphasise and prove that the other party is on the wrong side. Arguments and resentment starts and it reaches a stage where the individuals no more feel the warmth of the relationship.

Hatred means that we are not ready to accept the presence of others or that we look at the other person as a competitor or someone who stands in our way. This shows that we don’t believe in ourselves. We need not feel threatened by others. We should be able to love ourselves to the fullest so that the love spills over and spreads to our fellow beings and they will no longer be a threat. Rather we will develop the capacity to accept the person as he or she is and get along with them irrespective of our differences of opinion.

Revenge:

It is developed when anger is not handled properly. It is not wrong to feel angry. All of us feel angry on several occasions. But we should be careful that it is not taking a destructive turn. When we feel anger towards someone, over some issues, it is best to have dialogues and resolve the issue. If we can take things lightly in life and if we are able to laugh at ourselves for the silly mistakes we make, life becomes easier and the number of anger outbursts comes down.

We should learn to forgive others by sending positive thoughts towards the people who hurt us. Trying to stop the negative thoughts consciously also will help in letting go and forgive others.

How to let go?

Having self-awareness is the most important key to get over these negative emotions. All of us are filled with inner qualities of love, care, concern and peace. If you have ever spent time in solitude, listening only to the sound of your breath, you might have realised these inner qualities in you. The more we become aware of these inner qualities, for most part of the day, we will be able to maintain a pleasant mood. If you carefully observe, you can see that gradually your interactions with others become fruitful and positive. Your mind is not filled with hatred, anger, jealousy or revenge. With this exercise of seeking solitude and reinforcing the good inner qualities we start to feel very light inside, our problems and worries will become negligible and we start feeling oneness with others which is the end of all worldly problems.

Dear Friends, please leave your thoughts and opinions as comments.

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thumbi7 Hub Author 3 weeks ago

@Claudia Tello

Hi, Glad that you enjoyed this:)

Claudia Tello Level 6 Commenter 4 weeks ago

Fortunately, jealousy, hatred and revenge are not things I am involved with but I do need to practice letting go things I wanted/want in my life and just haven´t been able to achieve. Maybe I care too much and it stops them from happening.

Nice Hub, thanks for sharing your philosophy with us.

thumbi7 Hub Author 2 months ago

Hi jpcmc,

You are very correct in telling that we need to look within ourselves and find the necessary strength.

Gradually all those differences of opinion which you considered very "important" become negligible and you feel a lot lighter.

Thanks for your comment

thumbi7 Hub Author 2 months ago

Hi extended - stay,

I really appreciate your visit and comment

When we feel insecure about ourselves, letting go becomes difficult.

Thanks for your input

thumbi7 Hub Author 2 months ago

Hi, Brett,

I have observed that if we nurture negative feelings it will only pull us down. The other party is not affected at all! Why harm ourselves?

Thanks for your wonderful input!

jpcmc Level 6 Commenter 2 months ago

Very insightful. Not everyone can easily let go especially if the cause of the negative emoption is really traumatic. Of course letting go is a process. Once the person turns to look within, perhaps there is hope of letting go.

extended-stay Level 1 Commenter 2 months ago

I would definitely agree that in order to let go, we have to be aware in the first place that we have to do so. I really find it difficult to let go of people or even small things in my life. However, I realized that letting go means maturity and having gained courage and confidence that even without these people or things you can still go on with your life.

Brett.Tesol Level 7 Commenter 2 months ago

Extremely good advice. It is important to understand and accept yourself, then you can find a level of peace. Sometimes these emotions are warranted, even revenge has its place (such as when someone is hurting others and needs to learn a lesson), but the important part is how we deal with a learn to let go of these issues.

Socially shared, up and awesome.

thumbi7 Hub Author 3 months ago

Hi SMD2012,

I feel happy when people read this hub. To me this is the essence of "how to remain happy".

Thanks for the visit and that lovely comment:)

SMD2012 Level 3 Commenter 3 months ago

I love how you posed the question about knowing what to let go of. Sometimes I think that people carry things around for a long, long time and they don't even realize consciously what it is they are holding onto. Once you look inward and see what is going on for you (because it's ALWAYS going on on the inside) you can figure out how to make things work on the outside.

I really do enjoy reading your Hubs Thumbi! You are such a delightful Hubber to follow! Have a great day!

thumbi7 Hub Author 3 months ago

Dear melis,

I beleive in the power of letting go of these negative emotions.

Your mind will be filled with positive thoughts and your performance improves.

Thanks for the visit

Melis Ann Level 4 Commenter 3 months ago

If we could all let go then we could de-stress. This is certainly a challenge and we could all use the help. Thanks for this hub.

thumbi7 Hub Author 3 months ago

@ Aloscin

Lot of energy will be wasted in negative thoughts.

In some organisations and offices, the administrators spend lot of time and energy in solving the conflicts between employees instead of spending them on progressive thoughts.

Thanks for the visit and vote!

alocsin Level 8 Commenter 3 months ago

I like this advice to letting go of self-destructive emotions. I think also realizing how much energy it takes to hang on to the bad can help release it more quickly. Voting this Up and Interesting.

thumbi7 Hub Author 3 months ago

Thank you Anil and Honey

Thanks for the visit

Anil and Honey 3 months ago

Thumbi good ,i like your ideas .

thumbi7 Hub Author 3 months ago

@mljdgulley354

Thank you for validating my hub. We have to constantly remind ourselves and reinforce the pure inner qualities so as to retain a high state of mind.

I appreciate your visit and comment

Have a great day:)

mljdgulley354 Level 7 Commenter 3 months ago

Very useful hub. Self esteem is hard to come by but facing these issues goes a long ways toward it becoming a reality. These unresolved feeling have a way of not only burdening the person carrying them but also making rifts in family and friend relationships. Thank you for sharing this very important information.

thumbi7 Hub Author 3 months ago

@Jangaplanet

Thanks for the appreciation and sharing.

You are really a person of high level of wisdom if you can look at the brighter side of your life and live happily.

Jangaplanet Level 5 Commenter 3 months ago

Insightful and interesting article. I usually think about my attachments that are depleting my emotional reserves and almost always consider letting them go by looking at everything in which I am grateful to have in my life.

Beautiful and SHARING.